Some criminal defense attorneys have found themselves representing people who are being falsely accused of a crime by a spouse during the process of a divorce. This can be a devastating situation and a total shock if you thought you knew the person you were married to for years. Divorce can bring out the worst in people, though.
Something else that can bring out the worst in people sometimes is social media. On one hand, social media is a concept whose time has come. It has been improving (and sometimes confusing) the way that people communicate for the past decade or so, and it has only grown in popularity. While some social media websites like MySpace have faded into a collective fond memory, others like Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram are more relevant than ever.
You don't have to give up social media while dealing with false accusations during a divorce. However, if you ask any criminal defense attorney, they will let you know that there are steps you need to take to protect yourself when posting during your divorce.
Tip #1: Consider Unfriending Your Soon-to-Be Ex
Every relationship is unique, and only you and your soon-to-be ex can decide whether you should continue being a presence on each other's social media pages. You should seriously consider whether it is in your own best interests to continue seeing the goings-on of your ex if they have gone to the extremes of false accusing you. The answer is probably no! After all, think about whether you want the spouse you're divorcing to have immediate access to the posts you make. You may decide that unfriending your soon-to-be ex is the safest choice.
Tip #2: Make Sure Every Post You Make is Fit for Public Consumption
No matter how strict your post settings may be, you should consider every post you make to be broadcast to the entire world. It is easy for people to take screenshots or copy and paste the things you post, and you never know how well you can trust people on your list. You may have someone on your list who is all too happy to send the posts to your ex who may then try to twist the intention of your posts to fit their narrative.
Tip #3: Support Your Friends While Accentuating the Positive in Your Own Life
Make sure that you have a strong offline support system throughout your divorce. That will help you prevent impulsive social media rants. Have someone that you can call instead. Try to create a happy haven on social media where you can accentuate the positive and post things about your experiences that are not too personal.
Use social media to read your friends posts and offer support, and you may find that it provides a fun escape during your divorce. It should never be a place for trashing your ex or ranting about a divorce, though.
Finally, keep in mind that the spouse you once placed so much trust in must be very different now. to be falsely accusing you of a crime. Some spouses end up feeling that they barely knew each other before they were divorced, and it can truly bring out the worst in people. Make sure you are protecting your own best interests every time you post on social media. If in doubt, consult your criminal defense lawyer about what you should and shouldn't post on your social media pages during the divorce and other legal proceedings.